EP29 – What is FIGJAM and Why you Need it for Social Media and in Your Life
Does this sound conceded… “Fuck, I’m good… just ask me”? Or is it a confident statement?
In today’s episode, Nat and Ang are revealing why you need a little FIGJAM in your life. Never heard of the term FIGJAM before? Ask any golf lover what it means and you better be certain that they’ll either say “Phil Mickelson” or “fuck, I’m good… just ask me.”
Are you confident when it comes to sharing your success? Or do you ever feel like you’re being conceded when you talk about your success or big wins? If so, this episode is for you friend! Nat and Ang get straight to the point and help you push through those feelings and techniques to stop playing small!
To start, Nat an Ang chat about the difference between conceit and confidence.
“Conceit is when somebody feels fear in who they are…Confidence comes off more eloquently.
Listen up ladies and be honest… Have you ever received a compliment and responded with something like, “oh stop” or, “no, no…”? Seriously, at some point in your life, there was probably a time when this happened. In fact, start to take notice of how often this happens. Nat and Ang chat about why is it so hard to simply say, “thank you”?
So the ultimate question? Why do we feel like we’re being conceded or cocky when given a compliment? As they chat, they propose an exercise to better help you receive compliments:
When you receive a compliment, reply or react to the person as if they were a five-year-old child giving you the compliment. (Let that sink in for a moment).
“You don’t always have to be right, nor the smartest person in the room.”
In business and in life, there is tremendous value in knowing when there is a time to listen and when there is a time to speak. And sometimes our need to “be right” or prove that we are knowledgeable, successful or want to share; may actually come from a place of fear. At 12:39 Nat and Ang dive further into this.
At 14:05 Nat brings up the topic of negative self-talk. You know, those moments when you talk smack about yourself. You beat yourself up about something. Those feelings of unworthiness. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Working and practicing better ways that you talk TO yourself is just as important. What are the negative things you’re saying to yourself? It doesn’t need to be out loud as it could just be those thoughts in your mind. “I look like crap.” “I’m fat.” “I hate how I look in this.” “I will never get that client.” Sound familiar? Here’s where they get into the woo.
If you’re anything like Nat and Ang than you probably relate to the law of attraction and what actions and words you put out into the universe is what you’ll ultimately attract back into your life. The more negative talk and or vibes and energy you put out into the world, you will have more of that show-up. This is why it is so important to be mindful of how you think and speak about yourself. Invest more confidence in your thoughts, energy and actions.
Tying confidence into social media; your audience wants to see the real you, in all your authentic greatness. Ask yourself, how many times have you scrolled through your own Instagram account and second-guessed your post or picked your posts apart? And now think of how many times you’ve scrolled through someones else’s feed and picked theirs apart? Part of confidence in showing up on social media is also part of vulnerability.
Looking for more amazing resources on vulnerability? Be sure to check out Brené Brown who is an incredible writer and speaker on all things being vulnerable. Nat and Ang are both huge fans!
“A tiger doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheeps.”
Nat chats about one of her favourite podcast hosts, Gary Vaynerchuck and his advice on not listing to the haters and the negativity while also not listening to the praise and confidence. When you eliminate hearing the praises you can also eliminate hearing the booing.
To wrap up the episode, Nat and Ang chat about how when you shine, you pave the way for others to do the same.
Enjoy the show!